Have you ever wondered where all the wedding traditions came from and why we practice them? There are hundreds of customs for weddings that have originated over the centuries and have morphed into modified ancient rituals. But the most bizarre of all wedding traditions, is carrying the bride over the threshold.
We all have envisioned ourselves being carried over the threshold by our prince charming. I think it gives all of us gals a shiver of romantic excitement of wedded bliss. A new beginning for a lifetime of happiness. But, I know that most of us do not realize that this seemingly romantic gesture is steeped in a dark history.
Centuries ago, ancient cultures believed that evil spirits ran rampant looking for young, innocent girls to engulf and bring to the dark side. A bride, was the perfect victim for these evil spirits. It was believed that a dark or evil entity lurked on the threshold of doorways or the portal between two worlds and could easily enter a person thru the soles of their feet. Therefore, the groom, to prevent this invasion, would carry the bride over the threshold to their new life.
Another version to this seemingly innocent gesture was that a wedding would have followed a kidnapping of a young girl, making them a reluctant bride. Marriage by captured was the norm during the Middle Ages. Carrying a reluctant bride over the threshold made her into a submissive wife.
Today, the tradition of carrying the bride over the threshold, of the couples new home, has lost it torrid past. But, before you decide to carry on this tradition, I suggest that you think long and hard. Not about the symbolic meaning but about the physical endurance needed for this tradition. Unless you are a small, slim gal and your new husband is part of the WWF, injury can result for both parties! What a wedding memory that will be! Instead, why don’t you and your husband hold hands and walk across the threshold together, as equals partners, to start your new wedded life together. What ever you choose, keeping the old tradition or modifying it, remember the most important thing is the person you have chosen to walk across the threshold with.